Hold on to your kids : why parents need to matter more than peers / Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté.

Bibliographic Details
Main Author: Neufeld, Gordon.
Other Authors: Maté, Gabor.
Format: Book
Published: New York : Ballantine Books, c2005.
Edition:1st ed.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Like countless other parents, Canadian doctors Neufeld and Mate woke up one day to find that their children had become secretive and unreachable. Pining for time with friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? The problem, Neufeld and co-writer Mate suggest, lies in a long-established, though questionable, belief that the earliest possible mastery of the rules of social acceptance leads to success. In a society that values its economy over culture, the book states, the building of strong adult/child attachments gets lost in the shuffle. Multiple play dates, day care, preschool and after school activities groom children to transfer their attachment needs from adults to their peers. They become what the authors call ?peer oriented.? The result is that they squelch their individuality, curiosity and intelligence to become part of a group whose members attend school less to learn than to socialize. And these same children are bullying, shunning and murdering each other, as well as committing suicide, at increasing rates. The authors? meticulous exploration of the problem can be profoundly troubling. However, their candidness and exposition lead to numerous solutions for reestablishing a caring adult hierarchy. Beautifully written, this terrific, poignant book is already a bestseller in Canada. (Apr.) Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.